JACKSON, Mississippi. You’ve probably been thinking about divorce for some time. For many people, the decision to get divorced is one of the toughest they will ever have to make. If you are considering how to break the news to your partner, here are some things to keep in mind as you prepare for this tough conversation.
- Plan ahead legally. Before you sit down to talk about divorce with your partner, it is wise to plan ahead. The divorce lawyers at Ballard Law, PLLC, in Jackson, Mississippi can help you understand the financial and legal consequences of divorce. Our attorneys can help you understand your rights and can assist you with taking initial steps to secure your finances. We can also help you understand how divorce might impact your children and steps you can take to protect your custody and rights. Anything you do after you ask your former partner for a divorce can impact the financial and child custody aspects of your divorce. It is always best to be informed about your legal and financial obligations before sitting down to talk about divorce with your future ex-partner.
- Plan what you will say. According to the Huffington Post, when it comes to telling your spouse you want a divorce, your best bet is to be “calm, kind, and direct.” Never ask for a divorce in the middle of an argument. Take your time to think about your reasons why you want to get divorced. Psychology Today recommends that you preface anything with letting your spouse know ahead of time that you have tough things you need to talk about. Finally, give yourself space to have the conversation. If you have children, arrange for childcare. It may also be wise to have the talk at the start of a weekend, so your partner will have time to process the news. Don’t expect this to be a “one conversation” discussion. Telling your spouse you want a divorce is the beginning of a long process that will likely involve many discussions. Listen to what your partner has to say and be prepared to hear anger, sadness, and other tough emotions. While it is often best to have this talk in private, if you fear for your safety, you may want to have this discussion with a friend, family member, or counselor present.
- Give it time. Even if your marriage has been struggling for some time, expect your spouse to be shocked. Sometimes neither partner wants to be the one to step up and end it. If you are the one taking the action, you might be on the receiving end of a range of emotions. Be prepared for the divorce process to take time. Rushing through divorce is never a good idea. Your partner will need time to talk to his or her own lawyers. He or she may ask for counseling, if only for you two to work out co-parenting issues. Be prepared to negotiate a long road to divorce. The divorce lawyers at Ballard Law, PLLC, in Jackson, Mississippi can help you every step of the way.
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